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Ding… “Do you have to go to the potty?”


Hart is successfully potty trained.

But that did not come without some challenges.  I started out with a firm, “I will not reward her with candy or a treat to use the potty”. But that caved shortly after a few clean-ups, “Okay, you get an M&M when you use the potty”.  With a little bribery came greater success.  I also did the typical charting of times “hitting” the potty.  They say after 12 hits it starts to become automatic for kids.  That’s also common sense that if you do something long enough it becomes routine, a habit.  Every once in a while she will still ask for an M&M but we only give it to her if she asks.  That will soon be phased out.

Tapping into what I remember of my psychology classes, I decided to potty train Hart using a variety of behavioral theories…. B.F. Skinner’s Operant Conditioning and Ivan Pavlov’s Law of conditioned reflex to behaviorally condition my child to use the toilet.  I also used techniques for potty training in three days from Julie Fellom’s Diaper Free Toddlers program.  A timer was used to remind Hart and myself that it was time to go.  I started with 20 minute increments only to move that to 15 then once we were accident free for a day, to 30 minutes and so on.  We are at an hour to two depending on the fluid intake.

It was a great feeling to clear the diaper bag of Hart’s diapers, but then loading the bag with more changes of clothes and underwear will still require me to haul crap around.  Not to mention the portable potty we now carry in the bag.

Well, it all paid off.  Hart is potty trained! And in 3 days!

You gotta love the graphing calculator, she uses it as her smart phone.  She was replying to an email.


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Posted by on July 6, 2013 in Hart


Hart Meet Sol, Sol Meet Hart

While in the hospital we have been video chatting through Google Hangout, awesome, and Hart has gotten to see Baby Sol.  She hadn’t made the connection until she saw her in person.  Hart handled it well, not so much jealousy but I assume that will come, more of curiosity and exploration.  Sol was peaking out of one of her eyes checking out Hart.

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Posted by on November 10, 2012 in Baby, Hart


Project: Achieve Sleep Day 5

Data Collection Day 5 (3/14/2011)

Hypothesis: After 10 consecutive days, Hart will anticipate her feeding times by waking up, on her own, without parent assistance at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm and 10pm.  She will also sleep 5 consecutive hours or more between 10pm and 7am.

Data Collection:

Nighttime Feeding- there wasn’t one, Hart didn’t wake up.

7AM- Hart woke up at 6:30AM.

10AM- Hart woke up on her own at 9:30

1PM- Hart needed to be woken up.

4PM- Woke Hart up.

7PM- Woke Hart up.

11PM- the “dream feed”– Hart woke up at 10:30

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Posted by on March 15, 2011 in Baby, Feeding, Hart


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Project Achieve Sleep Day 4

Data Collection Day 4 (3/13/2011)

Hypothesis: After 10 consecutive days, Hart will anticipate her feeding times by waking up, on her own, without parent assistance at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm and 10pm.  She will also sleep 5 consecutive hours or more between 10pm and 7am.

**Discrepancy with data!  Hart slept through the night, there was not a nighttime feeding.  She slept 6.5 hours and woke up at 6:30AM so we started our day a half hour early.  Plus today was daylight savings time, that could have an effect on schedule.

Data Collection:

Nighttime Feeding- there wasn’t one, Hart didn’t wake up, see discrepancy notes above.

7AM- Hart woke up at 6:30AM after sleeping for 6.5 hours so the feeding was earlier than desired.

10AM- Hart needed to be woken up.

1PM- Hart needed to be woken up

4PM- Hart woke up at 3:30 hungry. see 7AM for why she woke early.

7PM- Hart work up at 6:30 hungry, see 7AM for why.

11PM- the “dream feed”– Hart was already up and READY to eat.

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Posted by on March 14, 2011 in Feeding, Hart, Sleeping


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Tooting My Own Horn

So, I think that I have the best baby in the world and I am NOT being bias.  Okay, so maybe I am, but don’t ALL parents “toot their own horns” about their kids and think that THEIR kids ARE the BEST?  Hey, I just acting like all parents, right?

When Hart is being burped on our shoulders, she will lift her head and look around.  The duration of time as increased and she is up to about 10-15 seconds.

Today, Wednesday, March 9, 2011 was Hart’s first tummy time on her play mat.  She was hanging out looking just to one side, but then she did it!  She lifted her legs then her head and held it for about 5-7 seconds.  Do we see the next Nadia Comaneci, Mary Lou Retton or Kerri Strug?  Okay, I will admit I seem to know too many gymnastics by name.  Speaking of Kerri Strug, that makes me think of the Saturday Night Live video spoof of her by Chris Kattan.  See video below, it’s funny!

Getting back to my point, Hart is only 5 weeks old, to be exact she is 5 weeks and 2 days.  In the book, Your Baby First Year, Week by Week, (thank you Julie Valot for the book!) Hart is supposed to reach physical development of holding her head up at a 45-degree angle for a few seconds while laying on her stomach in the 6th week.  That means, Hart is ahead of schedule!  That’s my Honey Bun!  Yeah call me crazy, and roll your eyes.  I am too!  I hope you know that I am being over the top on purpose.  Don’t get me wrong, I love watching Hart grow, but these first weeks and months are a little boring.  I can’t wait for her to interact more which is why I am looking forward to her development.  Enough said!

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Posted by on March 10, 2011 in Hart


Science Experiment Chapter 1, I’m the Next Jane Goodall!

As a new mother I realize that I am more than just a mother.  I am a Behavioral scientist focusing in operant conditioning, anthropologist, sociologist, pseudo pediatrician, and this is just the early stages of motherhood.  Later down the road I will add teacher, coach, disciplinarian to just name a few.

So to get a hold of what is going on and apply a “science” self, I must make some adjustments to the current way of life.  I can control that, right?

The thoughts that keep swimming around in my head (and need to disappear):

  • Inadequate plan- As Sudesh and Chandra say, “fail to plan, plan to fail” or my personal favorite, “plan for the worst and hope for the best”.
  • We are on the feed every three hours plan- no more, no less
  • Get a daily wake-up time and consistent feeding schedule down!
  • Why has she digressed at her noon feeding- wants to sleep through it.
  • Does she think it is night? Why isn’t she sleeping longer at night? See the one above.
  • Can babies really confuse day and night when they don’t have a concept of day and night?  See the two above.
  • Is she hungry, need to be changed, have gas, over stimulated, over tired?
  • Why are her feeding times decreasing?
  • Is she still gaining weight?
  • Why doesn’t she wake her self up to eat during the day if she has been on a 3 hour plan for the past 4 plus weeks?

So to get rid of the voices in my head, the second guessing, the phone calls to trusted peers, the consulting of books (Baby Whisper, Baby Wise) and the internet, I am going to go “hard-core”, it’s Baby Whisper plus Science Fair time!

Hart is not taking longer sleep time at night, but seems to think the middle of the afternoon is for that time. Therefore a new plan of attack must be established! Taking us back to Junior High and general science class.

Hypothesis: After 10 consecutive days, Hart will anticipate her feeding times by waking up, on her own, without parent assistance at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm and 10pm.  She will also sleep 5 consecutive hours or more between 10pm and 7am.

Steps/ Procedures:

  1. Wake Hart up at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm and 10pm daily.
  2. Play until signs of tiredness (about 1 hour from wake-up time)- yawing, slow blinking, moving head away from toy, crying, etc.  When she is tired, take her to her room and read quietly, quiet down time- about 15 minutes. Put her in her crib to put herself to sleep- about 15 to 20 minutes.
  3. Daytime naps will be approximately an 1 1/2 hours in length.
  4. Cluster feed at 6pm and 8pm daily.

Experiment starts Thursday, March 10th and continues for the next 10 consecutive days.

Stayed tuned for each days data collection!

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Posted by on March 9, 2011 in Baby, Feeding, Hart


Inside Sudesh’s Head: Breastfeeding Theme Music

For those of you old enough to remember the great show “Herman’s Head” this post is in honor of it.

Inside Sudesh’s Head

When Hart starts to breastfeed she is often either so hungry for food or excited that she “plays” instead of appropriately latching on…. when she does this, I tell her ‘to do it right’.  Sudesh has taken the ‘do it right’ back to his roots of high school and Bubba Sparks.  One night when I was telling Hart ‘to do it right’ Sudesh puts on the theme music from his head- “Miss New Booty”.  All I could do is laugh and now, every time I tell Hart ‘to do it right’ I can only think of booty.  Gotta love our background knowledge and how we apply it daily to our lives.  Marzano knows what he’s talking about (inside joke for educators).

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Posted by on February 24, 2011 in Baby, Feeding, Hart